Wishing the pain hadn't been is part of living with the pain that has been. It's part of life being enriched by meaning. I don't mean that I wish I couldn't wish for it to be different. I mean that I don't think I could regret the person I've become, and that means I can't regret having the regrets that pain has caused me, because then I would not be me. So I could never truly wish that it hadn't been. I would be denying that I deserve to be happy that I exist.
As you said, it's not wrong. It's simply a natural part of life, that's all.
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As you said, it's not wrong. It's simply a natural part of life, that's all.